After spending over a decade of my
life in Finland/Europe and the U.S., and having had the great opportunity to
interact and work with talented individuals and leaders from various cultural
backgrounds and journeys, I wanted to synthesize and share some of my key
experiences and lessons in cross-cultural experiences.
Working and living across
countries/cultures may present great opportunities and at the same time, they
hold numerous challenges. The ability to work effectively with, lead and manage
across cultures are competencies that are becoming very important in a world that
continues to get smaller and closer, due to rapid advances in technology and
social media. As glamorous as it may seem from a distance, adapting to and
succeeding in a very different culture are not at all easy. Those who choose to
be ignorant of this topic will lose great opportunities for personal and
professional growth.
There're numerous studies and
research articles on this topic and some of my thinking has been influenced by
them.
"If you come to another's
turf with empathy, sensitivity and open ears - what the Zen masters call
'beginner's mind' - you're halfway home". – Tom Peters
1. Respect
Being aware, sensitive to and
noticing some of the key themes, norms and behaviors in a new environment
constitute an important starting point. This can help one to understand how
things work, life patterns flow and what is valued in that setting. Many of the
norms would be very different from one’s own conditioning and would seem
strange initially. Being respectful to individuals and cultural norms helps to
adapt faster to any new environment. One would also need to be respectful of
the differences and try to understand the background without being judgmental.
There is a possibility of feeling disrespected or ignored, in some instances.
Chances are that, not everyone in a different culture is aware of the nuances
of your culture and interaction styles. Irrespective of how you feel initially,
your mature approach and respectful presence can increase your acceptance,
credibility and prevent you from getting stuck in a frustration zone.
2. Openness To New Experiences
Without Judging
This is vital for making progress
in a different cultural setting. Stephen Covey's teaching, "Seek first to
understand, then to be understood" is a very useful advice to keep in mind
while interacting with people from a different culture. It is useful to be
aware of our own biases and that our biases and environmental conditioning may
easily lead us into the questioning, judging, confusing and eventually
distrusting zone. Individuals from different backgrounds can look at the
same scenario and perceive it very differently. Categorizing something in
your mind as superior or inferior, right or wrong, good or bad etc. will impact
your own thinking ability and responses to situations and people. Open
communication with authenticity is fundamental to avoiding misunderstandings.
During initial stages of interactions, it's useful to explain the reason behind
doing or asking for something that impacts others, and clarifying the same with
others without creating a ‘threat’ state, when there are questions in your mind.
This avoids confusion, especially in the initial stages of relationship
building.
3. Flexibility
As mentioned earlier, I realized
that my own way of seeing a topic was very different from how others from
a different background related to the same topic. Being flexible
relates to building self-awareness and using that awareness effectively to
understand and manage through various scenarios. This would also
mean shifting/stretching ways of thinking and adjusting/ changing one's own
approaches. Taking the responsibility to tackle an unpleasant
situation with maturity and emotional intelligence requires a lot of
flexibility, to flex one's own thinking frames. It's very useful to have a
positive 'forgiving' and 'forgetful/let go' attitude with unpleasant
experiences, while being aware of one's own learning. Very seldom does
anyone win an argument of being right or wrong. 'Co-regulation' beyond
'self-regulation' is very helpful. Vicious responses only result in
cycles of vicious interactions and stress, which take the relationships further
into the red zone. On the other hand, not engaging in a proactive,
positive conversation results in increasing distance.
4. Coping with the unknown and
fear of failure
There're a lot of unknowns in a
new environment. Finding information through formal and informal channels and
making personal connections are very helpful to put one at ease initially. One
has to also find relevant ways to accept, understand and cope with stress
related to uncertainties of the new environment. It generally will take a
certain amount of time before adjusting and feeling comfortable in a
different cultural environment. Patience is fundamental to work
through times of frustration, disappointment and negativity. It may
not be uncharacteristic to go through a feeling of ‘being lost’ at times. It
is really important to find one's own support from ‘comfort zones’, secure
bases and ‘connections’ in those situations.
It is helpful to be prepared for
mistakes and misunderstandings along the way. Fear of failure can inhibit
people from experimenting or experiencing new things, which reduce the impact
of the cultural experience, knowledge and personal development. The normal
tendency might be to stay within one's own comfort zones most of the
time.
According to a leading expert in
this field Fons Trompenaars, "We need a certain amount of
humility and a sense of humor to discover cultures other than our own; a
readiness to enter a room in the dark and stumble over unfamiliar furniture until
the pain in our shins reminds us of where things are."
Your willingness and openness to
step into the new world can take you to a totally new dimension of personal
growth, deep connections and confidence. Enjoy the journey. Best
wishes…
Please share your valuable learning and
experiences!
Note: The topic
of 'culture' can be reviewed at different levels or frames. I've tried to
focus on the country culture aspect here. Some of these practices can be
useful in working through other aspects, like organizational culture
differences.